Perhaps it is the pumpkin spice in my latte, but something has me turning inward with a magnifying glass made of pure nostalgia. Of course, this is the season where I allow my inner white girl to come up to the surface and run rampant for a time. Really, it is for the best — otherwise, I might find myself …
Want Happiness? Sift.
What does it mean, for us, to master the self? Before we go deeper, let us make a distinction: Self, “capital S”, cannot be mastered. It is root, real you. It is the thing you are trying to find. And, it’s a pimp daddy. If you try to make it your bitch you’ll just end up with a heroin habit …
Why do I dislike and hate myself?
The simple answer to this question is: Ultimately, it doesn’t matter. Because, you won’t be able to fix it until you do the opposite, which is love yourself. Dearly and truly. Even if you were to find the roots of all your self-loathing, unless you’re coming from a place of self-love, you won’t be able to tear them out. There …
Death is the Root of Fear
There are two kinds of fear — both guide us to our destiny. One pushes us towards our needed direction, the other pulls us away. In either case, we can use the direction of that push or pull to extrapolate our inner map. Importantly, the fear is the same stuff both ways. What controls the direction of this floodgate is …
Tales from the Ghetto: Hubris vs. Pride
Pride is not a bad thing. All it is, in reality, is a healthy admiration and respect for yourself, derived from self-love. It is just that it doesn’t conform to the normal social bullshit rule where you don’t share your overflowing self-love with other, lesser people. Contrary to popularly held belief, refusing to give in or settle for less than …
Detachment is Power
Often, people come to me with a chain of “failures” under their belt. People pick a problem area of their life, make some effort to change, and slide back down into old habits. Then, they pick a new area, repeating the same pattern. Over and over they will do this effectively going in circles. Wash, rinse, repeat. Sadly, some mistake …